Our mind is very efficient, however sometimes... a little too efficient

It tends to compare and stop us before we even think of the first step . Thoughts like... "But it already exists," "There are others doing this," "But they have better credentials," "They are world champions in this, how can I compare?" Really, just a never-ending loop of thoughts as to why it is not worth doing.

I am sure you have heard this kind of sentence from someone or you might even be the "someone."

I can relate... I definitely felt like that before in my life and I get it... It is so hard not to feel that way. To feel like the least qualified person for a thing that for a split second felt like the best thing ever. Well... All is not lost. I have learned, designed, and successfully implemented these 3 key steps to overcome this and grow in ways you can't even imagine... (for now).

First step – Write it down

Yup, dead simple... write it down, but not just the "why not" part... Write the whole sentence down. That way you can see it clearly and close the loop. It's like having a part of your favourite song on repeat in your head and it... just... won't... stop... no matter what. The trick? You must listen to the end of the song and that's exactly what we need to do with this loop. By writing it down, we can finally let it go from our mind and YOU end up with your current core belief sentence as to "why not you." It might sounds something like, "I don't feel like it's going to work for me as there are others that are qualified in a better place (mention the actual place) or hold better certificates (yup, details, details, details) or they are world champions…" Just keep going, keep writing it down however long it might be, and more importantly, try to be as specific as possible.

Second step – Turn the sentence on its head

Every little part about why not... take it and think of ways and whys and hows that might be a reason for people not to get in touch with them, with this ideal person you have written about in Step 1. Seems simple, but try it first and see that creativity and brainstorming are required to be on overdrive here. It might sound like, "Yes he/she is a champion but some people might be intimidated by the level of professionalism, they might charge too much, no point to even look, they only work with the best clients, who am I to get lessons from world champions..." and so on... thanks to this exercise you will be able to shift your core beliefs and mindset on the topic.

Word of advice on this... in the world of AI, it is very easy to just ask AI all these questions and it will throw a page of text back at you... however, that is USELESS as this needs to come from you, from your mind, and your beliefs. This is an exercise on changing beliefs... not reading pages and pages of garbage information.

And finally, the third step – Can you can see it ?

Go ahead and apply yourself, your uniqueness, and your personal touch into the space created by the previous exercise. By this point, you have a somewhat good understanding and you are able to see that existing options are not as perfect as they seemed before. I am sure you can find many ways in which you can apply your perspective, experience, and expertise. Please go ahead and claim some of the space for yourself. The final writing exercise is all about you and your angle. Go ahead and use your creativity and freedom to write all the ways you are the best person to get in touch with. Search for all the unique and make... it... happen!

Imagine how many amazing people are stuck at the first step, not finishing the loop of thought and having these "why not me" messages flooding their minds... Thanks to these steps, you are now ahead of millions of people who sadly won't take the first step needed.

Bonus point

Having all this knowledge, take your time and remember that you are not restricted or restrained; you are free, free to imagine, free to come up with, and free to write the "WHY ME" sentence however you like... Free to imagine why a client would choose you and why you, your skills, and your unique perspective will make you successful and follow through!

Conclusion

We worry so much about other people and how they are better. We end up forgetting to think and reflect on what makes us unique and why we would be chosen. These are not only 3 simple steps; it's a reframing technique to find your confidence to do what you have considered impossible. And most importantly, to succeed.